This Will Hurt, Harm and Suck The Very Life Out of Your Child!
Not knowing the evidence will hurt your child. (and you) I have a brilliant sister whose name is Penny. It is a great British name. I call her Nelope. Nelope attended the same undergraduate college as I did in Virginia. Both of us had attended summer school so that we could finish our degrees in the shortest time possible. The result was that we both completed our degrees in the middle of the school year in December. Nelope then left to go to Dallas and begin her doctoral wor
Sticks and Stones Can Break My Bones But Words...
I have seen an epidemic of interventions by parents, teachers, social media hawks, law enforcement and the public to run to the aid of people, primarily young people, when they are verbally demeaned, attacked or made fun of. I understand the sentiments of all who intervene. I feel for those children and adults who are assaulted verbally with racial, sexual, social, religious, physical or other slurs or just nasty vile attacks. Words hurt. They make us feel less that. The
Please Somebody See Me!
Maybe the greatest pain or source of pain I have seen in the children of wealthy families in the pain of not being known while being known. I know that sounds like Dr Seuss. What I mean by that is they feel a great sense of emptiness. They have a sense they are playing to the external or veneer of the family name, reputation and notoriety and they have none of their own. None they can say they created anything substantive by themselves. They are uncertain that they could ever
The Amazing Positive Power of “NO”!
It is not very often you read something that just makes great sense. I often read articles or books by psychologists, counselors or other mental health professionals and I honestly think, “What reality do they live in?” or something less than kind. That is because there is so much utter nonsense in the pop psychology world that is filled with advice about never saying no, never setting limits or boundaries because of the limiting effect on creativity or hurting the feelings
Teaching Teens and Millennials The Joy of Giving.
The teenage years are often a time of intense selfishness. It is all about them. Their needs, emotions, future, money, friends, etc. After all they even invented the "Selfie" because it describes their focus - ME! The ability to give from what one has earned is a Joy. It requires looking away from self to the needs of others. Giving results in positive emotion, satisfaction and it can change the lives of those who receive. Giving brings human connection and allows people w
Your Child In NOT Jesus! Treat Teachers With Respect
My Life Scene Investigation has been involved in helping change behavior with students from over 50 schools in Seattle, Dallas and Los Angeles. One of the big issues that schools have to deal with is disrespect from students which sometimes gets a response from administrators but very often they are petrified to respond because of useless, jackass, ill mannered and just plain ignorant parents. Parents who threaten to sue and go to social media and cause all sorts of crazy f
A Prophylactic Against Teen Crazy!
I raised three teens, two older boys and a younger girl child. They were two years apart. I was a single parent and I would often believe I would end up jumping into the lake, not to kill myself but to cool off and stop the steam coming from my overheating head. Verbal arguments, trying to explain simple logic, setting boundaries, asking had homework been done, wanting to know where they were going, who were the new friends, who would be at the party, when were chores going
100 Questions to Ask Your Teen Other Than “How Was School?”
I wanted to share this fun article to help you with talking with your teen. One of the hardest things to do as a parent is to find ways to communicate with someone who lives in an alien world. Before I share it, want to give you the best secret I ever found that works brilliantly if you want to talk with your teen. I raised three by myself. This will work 98.392075534% of the time if you do it. Follow the simple steps. Talk while doing something your teen loves doing. He
Why Look Back to Go Forward?
Parenting is never easy, I know, I raised three children. Two boys and one girl. As a married parent, a single custodial parent, a parent. In working with parents for 30 years, I have come to believe that the best parenting is not so much about reading every book or listening to all the so called experts, it is about perspective. How you approach your world or parenting. How you see the process and how to get them launched into life. There is a pervasive belief that the p
Millennials Need Hope - Here's How!
How many of us, our friends or people we know, have young adults aka Millennials, that: Have dropped out of college and returned home to live? Have never found their way up and out and never left home? Have changed their plans to accommodate a child who just won’t get up and become and adult? Have to live captive in their homes after raising children because of a child who is still a child? There are other scenarios but you get the idea. Last month, a Pew Research Center repo